Indeed, had I been honest with my father, I might have told him that the scandal was even worse than he thought. But that would have entailed explaining why the media would have given it even more attention than they did were it not for the fact that nearly all the abuse cases were homosexual in nature; and why it is precisely those post–Vatican II liberalizing trends in faith, morals, and discipline he considers signs (albeit meager ones) of progress in the Church that led to the present situation; and why sexual predation is not somehow intrinsic to the priesthood, as he clearly now believes; and why – this is the near-impossible one – the Church is holy despite everything.
Every faithful Catholic has relatives and friends for whom he or she must pray to enter the Church before they die. With converts, however, those people are likely to be the ones closest to us – parents and siblings – which gives the perceived need to somehow convince them of the truth and beauty of the Faith a degree of urgency I can only describe as panic. It’s disheartening enough when we ourselves fail (as I have largely done) to image Christ in such relationships; it’s immeasurably more so when the men we go so far as to call alter Christus – another Christ – use that as a façade to conceal the foulest of sins.
Our Lord warned what lies in store for such men – and for all of us “by whom the scandal cometh”: it would be better “that a millstone should be hanged about his neck, and that he should be drowned in the depth of the sea” (Matt. 18:6). He said this with reference to endangering the faith of “these little ones that believe in me.” But I don’t think He meant it any less – perhaps He meant it even more – with reference to those who do not have the Faith but need it, as we all do, for their salvation. In other words, the souls that will be lost because of the present scandal – Catholics who leave the Church, in the mistaken belief that predator priests and bishops prove it a lie – are no more important than those that will not be gained.
Not all who lack the Faith had it but lost it. And not all are “little ones.” Some are 89 years old.